thanks for taking one for the team goblin brain. I've wanted to write to Polly my own story, but it got so convoluted I don't think I could have articulated all the... nuances. but I was in a similar situation with the added fun of the married man in question being my boss. and the bonus daddy issues manifesting in a 17 year age difference. he had a slightly different style- he would assure me he was leaving or had left his wife while yukking it up with everyone else in the office about what they did that weekend. after 3 years I had to quit the job to escape the situation. I really felt like I was losing my mind.
I'd be lying if I said he doesn't still reach out a year later, claiming that he's now divorced but scuttling away as soon as the conversation goes past "hello how are you". some mysteries really do remain unsolved.
the upshot is that I started therapy in the middle of that situation, and though it took me a while to get out, things have steadily been improving. I recommend the show Fleabag for your syllabus. some of it may look familiar. :) good luck
thanks for taking one for the team goblin brain. I've wanted to write to Polly my own story, but it got so convoluted I don't think I could have articulated all the... nuances. but I was in a similar situation with the added fun of the married man in question being my boss. and the bonus daddy issues manifesting in a 17 year age difference. he had a slightly different style- he would assure me he was leaving or had left his wife while yukking it up with everyone else in the office about what they did that weekend. after 3 years I had to quit the job to escape the situation. I really felt like I was losing my mind.
I'd be lying if I said he doesn't still reach out a year later, claiming that he's now divorced but scuttling away as soon as the conversation goes past "hello how are you". some mysteries really do remain unsolved.
the upshot is that I started therapy in the middle of that situation, and though it took me a while to get out, things have steadily been improving. I recommend the show Fleabag for your syllabus. some of it may look familiar. :) good luck
Attched! https://www.amazon.com/Attached-Science-Adult-Attachment-YouFind/dp/1585429139