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OBC's avatar

This is the truest description of misogyny I've ever read. And this explains what's been eating me all weekend. Here, Molly, take my money. You deserve it.

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Heather Havrilesky's avatar

Thank you for subscribing. After Stripe and Substack take their cut, it's all going to Planned Parenthood! Stay tuned to see how much $ we raise. xo

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OBC's avatar

Thanks for reminding me that it’s time to send planned parenthood more of my money too. Thank you for content that speaks to the dark, (true) me.

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Lisa Gluskin Stonestreet's avatar

Holy hell. Thank you for this. A subscription for me, and another direct donation to Planned Parenthood for all of us.

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Jolene's avatar

Amen- rather, where are the A (rated) men? I’m hearing crickets from the cowardly men who benefit from reproductive rights to carry on with their limp dicks that spread to their tongue. Silence as if we knock ourselves up because we had the audacity to imbibe in a skirt or take a walk at night. I’m furious and heartbroken. Why do we carry the world’s hate in our uteruses? Arrows aimed at bosoms? Fetuses have more religious empathy than their targeted hosts— those dirty descendants of Eve only to be abandoned on birthdays because of bootstrap mentality. Guns are worshipped—GI Jesus, exalted on an ammunition throne as this country pushes the clock back to property rights and bare feet that have no voice unless they are yelling “dinner!!” Using adoption as the holy grail of solutions— forget healthcare costs and physical suffering and the torment of relinquishment; meanwhile, foster care ages out thousands of the unwanted. Never mind adoption is a tool of capitalism and colonization. I needed this pep talk—thank you for giving me permission to rage against the machine. Damn the robed liars, the legalized misogyny. I’m in touch with my inner Madonna. I’ll be taking to the streets. Giving my money to PP, Lilith.

Yours truly in agony.

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L123's avatar

You put words to the thing that I haven’t had words for. Thank you 🙏

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Alison's avatar

Holy … this is it! What’s in my head and heart but I haven’t found the words. Wow. I have to go back and re-read this. I wish I knew the things I understand now 20 years ago. Would have made a whole lot of crap much easier.

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Stephanie B's avatar

Hello, Heather,

Another wonderful piece of writing. I already subscribe but would like to donate a little bit more to add to the amount you get from today's new subscriptions. How can I do that?

As always, thank you for the brilliant way you express your truths.

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Heather Havrilesky's avatar

That's so generous of you! I wish there were an easy way to raise money for a good cause through Substack, where a percentage could go directly to a nonprofit without touching my bank account at all. (I've talked to them about adding this!) I guess you could give a gift subscription - I will add that link at the bottom. Thank you for your support regardless! xo

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Stephanie B's avatar

Done. I bought a years subscription for my dear friend Ann who is a wonderful photographer, artist, and teacher, and who has been working tirelessly to help immigrants in the NYC area.

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Heather Havrilesky's avatar

Thank you!!!

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Stephanie B's avatar

🌷❤️

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Lauren's avatar

Every single night at bedtime, I’ll remind them.

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Violet Farraday's avatar

This is fucking everything.

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Owl_Girl's avatar

Yesss! This! Thank you for articulating all that I have been feeling lately!

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shana's avatar

So much yes to "axes and asses out"

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Beth Herrin's avatar

🙌🏻

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